I can see why people like this book, but I did not get as much from it as I’d been told I might 😃
By Lauren Beversdorf
Like so many people, I picked up Let Them by Mel Robbins with curiosity. While the entire book didn’t land for me, three chapters—5, 6, and 14—hit me straight in the heart when thinking about myself as well as the people I love most. Sometimes all it takes is a few pages to shift your mindset, and these chapters gave me that nudge I didn’t know I needed.
💡 Chapter 5: “Let Them Judge You”
This chapter reads like a permission slip to live unfiltered. Mel Robbins asks: What if people judge you… and you let them?
Rather than shrinking from criticism, she reminds us that judgment is a reflection of the judge, not the judged.
“You can’t be free if you’re trying to manage everyone’s perception of you.”
— Mel Robbins, Let Them
I realized how much energy I sometimes waste trying to be understood, liked, or validated. Letting people judge means letting go of their power over my peace and the stories they tell versus the good one I know to be TRUE.
🎥 Watch this video:
Stop Caring What They Think – Mel Robbins (YouTube)
“If someone judges you, that is their business, not yours.”
🌿 Chapter 6: “Let Them Talk Behind Your Back”
This chapter was a big exhale for me. I’ve gotten pretty good at this in the last couple years…because I just do not care what people think anymore…when I know the truth. I am a good person, I try my best, I have good intention in just about everything I do. Mel flips the narrative: if people are talking about you behind your back, they’re behind you for a reason.
“Let them talk. You have more important places to be.”
It’s about peaceful detachment. This chapter helped me unhook from people’s stories about me and return to my own. I’ve written a pretty good one.
💬 Lauren’s Take:
I used to believe that being liked equaled being safe. This chapter challenged that—and helped me see that safety comes from within.
🗝️ Chapter 14: “Let Them Leave”
This chapter was the mic drop. Whether it’s friendships, jobs, or relationships we’ve outgrown, this one reminds us: Let them leave.
“Every exit creates space. What will you fill it with?”
It helped me grieve and release long-held attachments. Loss doesn’t mean failure—it can mean freedom.
🎧 Listen to the podcast:
The Secret to Letting Go – The Mel Robbins Podcast (Spotify)
✨ Final Thoughts
Most self-help books preach more than they land. Let Them didn’t speak to every part of me—but Chapters 5, 6, and 14? They validated some things I know to be true, I already have in practice or gave me the validation I needed to continue the work.
If you find yourself stuck in people-pleasing, hurt by gossip, or afraid to let go… maybe you don’t need the whole book. Maybe just these three chapters are enough.
Be the change... 